this is my problem;

a few months ago i met this wonderful guy on the net. It clicked amazingly,and after a while, we decided to meet.
We both felt reaaly good together, but after a few times, he told me that he felt something really special for me, more then friendship, but that he wasn't in love with me, like the other times he was in love.
He thought it was because he wasn't over the break up of his last relationship yet.

anyway, we still kept seeing eachother, and didn't really mind as long as i could keep my best friend.

but then i went away for a month, when i came home he told me that he wanted to stop seeing me. he said he was going through a difficult time in his personal life, and that he couldn't take our friendship on top of that (it took a lot of traveling cause we live far apart)
he promised to keep contact, but not on such a regular basis as before.

i thought i could accept that, but it's been a month now, and i can't i miss him so much!
and i don't want to leave him alone with his problems and it felt so right!
now i'm starting to get afraid that it'll never be like before anymore.

could you take a look at our charts and tell me what you think?
is this relationship just not destined to be (even though we have some of the twin self aspect)?
and is there anyway i can help him right now?

my data: 17/11/80 4.41 pm
sint niklaas, belgium

his : 4/8/77 4.06 am
drunen , the netherlands

thank you so much already!
love and light

meissi,

The Soul Mate aspect you have is kind of a loose aspect--meaning the orb isn't very tight.

He may very well be dealing with a crisis in his life right now. It's a big one too, something major that he has to deal with, and with his natal Venus in the 12th house of secrets, he may prefer to do it alone. He also has Saturn transiting through his house of friendships. This can bring a rock solid, stable friend or challenges to his friendships, or possibly both. With the crisis he's dealing with and that natal Venus in the 12th, it may be challenging right now because he does want to be alone. All you can do is let him know you'll be there when he needs you. Give him lots of TLC when you see, write or speak to him. He needs it right now. He may feel like the world is working against him and be turning within himself. I don't see much change in his life from where it is now for at least another year.

Good luck to yOu,
Auriel
Auriel

I also meant to mention but forgot that he currently has the transiting Pluto opposing his natal Mars. He's in a warring mood and it'll effect his relationships.

Good luck,
Auriel

thank you so much for the reply.
though it wasn't exactly what i wanted to hear
i know the aspects aren't really tight, but still...
anyway, i wish i could give him lots of TLC, the problem is that we don't have contact anymore. telephoning is too expensive, his computers out, and writing... i miss my best friend, but i guess i care more for him then the other way around.
sometimes i think i'm just not meant for love, it never ever works out. i think it must be my venus-pluto conjunction, and i probably did something terrible in one of my previous lives
anyway, thanks for the reply!

love and light

meissi,

This afternoon my best friend and I took my two daughters for a walk on the beach. My youngest daughter was looking for pretty shell to bring home today. Most of the shells that wash up are broken and small and we just leave them there. Half way to our destination I found a large beautiful shell the waves washed up. My oldest daughter was really mad because I gave it to her little sister when she wanted it. She stormed the rest of the way up the beach and was complaining she would never find one like that. I kept telling her she needed to change her attitude and have positive thoughts if she wanted to find a shell. She didn't listen and by the time we reached the bridge, she still hadn't found a shell she wanted to keep. At the beach I stopped my daughter and softly told her to face the ocean and picture white light coming to her 3rd eye. Then I told her to visualize finding a shell on the way back. We stayed for a few minutes and then started our walk back. We found so many large, beautiful shells on the way back that we needed a bag to carry them home.

Now use your Pisces Moon and apply this to your situation. My daughter said she's now going to visualize me driving a BMW. What are you going to visualize??

Good luck with your situation.

Love,
Auriel

BTW, that's a very true story!

I've read a lot of beautiful and inspiring things on this site....but that story takes first prize!!!!
Love,
Terri
BTW - I don't even know what you look like, but I can totally picture you driving a BMW too!

you're absolutely right,
that's a lovely story indeed
my mum gave me almost the exact same advise last week
so i think i better listen, though i'm starting to think i'd better take up a course visualising, cause apparetly i'm not quite good at it. But i think it's just the believe that's sometimes missing
i'll think of the shellstory

love and light