I'll take a look.
We like to say that the stars impel but do not compel, meaning that the astrology reflects our natural tendencies; however, we can always make conscious choices to behave differently than our natural tendencies.
For instance, as a sun-sign Aries with an impulsively hot temper and a critical Capricorn moon and a lionish Leo rising, I have certainly found it almost irresistible at various times in my life to just roar at people for various things that set me off. But that's not how I really want to be, so I am constantly working on that. Of course, there are also great things about all three of those elements: Aries sun, Cappie moon, Leo rising, that I can call upon in myself. And there are other natural tendencies reflected in my chart that indicate other characteristics that are easily and naturally available to me.
And when you're friends, that's one level of intimacy, and there's a certain level of self-control people exercise at that level. But when you get down to something like the day-in, day-out living together of marriage, for instance, a lot of your guard gets dropped and there are going to be grumpy times when the incompatibilities will really come out. That's where it helps to know whether it will really be naturally easy in those situations or will you really have to work hard to always keep yourself on your best behavior because the worst of you will butt up in harsh ways against the worst of him.
There is ALWAYS free will, and certainly people with charts that don't necessarily form an easy mesh can and do still love each other and even manage to hold marriages together, etc. But there's that question -- how much will do you want to have to be constantly exercising over yourself and how much do you want to be able to relax and just BE with someone. With your rising signs the same, you are a lot alike in the sense of your "outer" selves -- the way you conduct yourselves in the world, in society, is similar. But when you're home and have kicked your shoes off and want to let it all hang out, it could be very different. I'll take a peek.
Maria
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