Recently met a Scorp dude. I'm a Virgo female. We hit it off right away. Nice rapport. Nice conversation. Both very relaxed in one another's presence and highly enjoy each other's company. Haven't known each other too long but right away I sensed that he could be a good friend and about two to three days in, he called me "friend" before we parted from each other for the night (just hanging out).
I'm a pretty typical Virgal; Shy, modest, reserved, quiet, not emotionally loud etc. He, a typical Stinger; outgoing, emotional, intense, sexy...blah, blah, blah. Thus far he's been pretty kind, goes out of his way to help me, and is quite protective of me. I sense he's a very loyal person as well (like all scorps)

He asked me one day to have lunch with some people and I told him no (was too shy) and he quickly gave me a look of dissatisfaction. He asked me to have lunch with him two days in a row but I didn't (secretly I was starting to crush on him and my feelings were getting stronger and stronger) because he is a typical flirt and goes to lunch with many girls. He hung his head when I told him that I couldn't but I did this--kept my distance, to avoid getting in too deep.

He is an artist and has an upcoming show and asked me immediately upon meeting me if I would attend and I told him yes. I also helped him with his website a bit (for a day or so) and then told him that I couldn't help him anymore because I just didn't want to. He frowned. Told him to get an intern/assistant (I don't know why but he strikes me as a bit of a user)

He mentioned one day that he wanted to go to the zoo around where I lived (soooo not the type of guy that would hang out at the zoo so immediately my eyebrow was raised) and started asking me about when was the best time to go yadda, yadda, yadda...told him I didn't know, and he just looked at me clueless, and we just left it at that.

Ok, so finally getting to my point here, one day he asked me to call him and when I did, he had absolutely nothing to say. The convo lasted all but 2 minutes, lol. Why? Granted, a week before that he did call me and we pretty much confirmed that we missed each other and the only reason I called him the following week was because he kept asking me to (my friend tells me it was an ego thing) and once I did...nada!

At this point, the relationship seems more like big brother/lil sister but we did some light flirting and I noticed that his eyes get real soft towards me when I speak to him in a more womanly tone and carry myself with more confidence. He doesn't know my age, but I look at least a decade younger than I am (Virgos in da house! woot! woot!), and he's at least 8-10 years older than me.

He called me again a few weeks ago and this time we talked for a minute. Just general stuff. His co-worker also told me that he missed me, and he invited me to his job to watch the fireworks for the 4th (not necessarily with him I think) but I told him no. I mentioned I wanted to see fireworks but I wasn't about to go to his job to do it.

So, having said that, from what you've read, am I taking this too far? And it's just a friendship? I know Scorp men tend to relate to the female populace very easily so, maybe I need to relax? lol I know he definitely sees me as a friend.
I think I'm gonna just leave him alone because my feelings are starting to develop for him and I see how many women he flirts with and how many of them practically throw themselves at him and I don't want to get played. I know Scorp men are known for playing games and the whole phone call thing just spoke volumes.

From one Virgo gal to another... this is a hard one to tell, since you said he is a flirt. I'd find out if he's a game player or not (what's his prior history with women like?). You are smart to hold back. If you are still interested after doing some checking around, maybe the next time he asks you to come to lunch or somewhere with him you could say something like "Is this a date or are you just asking me as a friend... I never know with you?" That way you are putting it out there that you might be interested in more, and see what he says.

Virgos and Scorpios are very compatible. Some of my best friends are Scorpios, and I had a hot romance once (for a short while) with a Scorp.

Thank you, Veneo!

Yea, I think it could go either way with him and at this point it is really hard to tell. Unfortunately I don't know what his prior history with women is like because he is so guarded and private (typical Scorp) and I am a typical non-pushy, non-intrusive Virgo so I don't and wouldn't feel comfortable asking him those kinds of questions.

I guess my best course of action at this point is to continue being friendly with him (at a bit of a distance of course) and simply observe as I believe all true things come to light in time.

Thanks for the suggestion about lunch *giggles nervously* but I don't know if I could! I'm quite shy!

-VM

Hi VM,

What I was suggesting was asking around about his history with women, not going to the source. It sounds to me like he's interested since he keeps asking you to do things with him (and he's told you he misses you), but you keep putting him off. It could be he likes the thrill of the chase due to that phone call thing, but it's hard to say.

Your course of action sounds good to me, and I agree. Also trust your gut feeling (intuition).

Reading how shy you are and thinking about myself reminds me of how strong my Gemini/Leo influence is. I can be shy and awkward in social situations where I don't know people or feel uncomfortable, but other than that not so much.

Oh...ok! DUH! Got it! LOL! Ask around...not him!

I could do that. I could do that. Ha!

The phone call threw me for a loop because all of a sudden he had nothing to say. Even if he was around someone that he couldn't talk in front of at the moment, he could have at least called me back when he was in a different space and time but instead I didn't hear back from him until nearly 4 weeks later...geez, as I sit here typing this out to you, it's really registering for me that he is a player...*GASP*

Eh, I think it's best to just let it alone. I can't stand games and I'll just confuse myself in the process with all of the analyzing, re-analyzing and over-analyzing...HAHAHAHA!

Where are your Gemini and Leo placements?

Thanks for your help!
-VM

Hee hee

It sounds like your intuition is kicking in... go with your gut.

My Gemini are my Asc & Moon (not conjunct though), and my Leo is my Venus, Ur & North Node. With my Leo starting to get activated I'm feeling very bold and empowered lately.

Hello Virgo Maiden and welcome to CE. I wish you all the very best with the Scorpio artist. Please do keep us posted on how things progress between you.

Thank God for intuition. Where the heck would we be without it!

WOW, Gem in moon and ASC huh. Sooooo...are you quite flirty and outgoing??? With those placements, what people get from you initially is that of a real social butterfly, someone who's fun, and pretty much always up to have a good time. How's my assessment? And that Leo in Venus helps to bring the fire in romance ...yea?

Hey there, Venus! Thanks for the warm reception!

I'll try but quite honestly, don't know if there will be anymore updates as I had a revelation about 2 or so posts up...he's a player! *GASP*

You're very welcome Virgo Maiden.

Ah, well if he does turn out to be a player then certainly there won't be any further updates about him. But alas, I believe the Moon was just turning Void-of-Course (but don't quote me on that as I'm not 100% sure) at the time of your post and Mercury was Retrograde too, so it's possible that feelings and thoughts can change once you learn more.

I'll share a personal story with you about a player. I once had a guy (12 years my senior) interested in me and his demeanor was so cute I couldn't resist returning that interest. But alas, all I heard from other people was that this guy was a player. At first I believed them because they certainly knew him better than I did and he was in a band, so the image did fit - but somehow my heart just wasn't buying it. So I took my chances and let the romance bloom. And here we are almost 18 years later still together in a monogamous and committed relationship.

It wasn't that the people who told me he was a player were wrong. Before I came into the picture, my guy surely was guilty of loving and leaving them once he and his wife had separated (because she had been unfaithful) so he was sort of lashing out his broken heart. Not nice or fair to those women he wronged, but my point is, once he found someone he wanted to settle down with, he was able to remain true to one girl.

And it's possible that if you are the one meant for this Scorpio artist, he will settle down and be true to just you too. If the two of you are meant to experience a relationship with one another to learn and grow together, regardless of the outcome, you'll feel it in your heart to give him a chance like I did with my guy. Is it fear of a broken heart that keeps you from accepting his lunch dates or the warning voice of your intuition? Only you know that answer. Still wishing you all the very best.

Hi Virgo Maiden

So sorry I forgot to welcome you... where are my manners. Welcome to CE. I hope you stay around. Seems as if you know a bit about Astrology.

That sounds like a pretty good assessment. More outgoing than flirty... when I was younger and single yes, but not really now. Maybe that has more to do with where my planets have progressed to. My progressed Venus is in Libra now, so not so fiery in the romance dept these days. Wow, I haven't looked at my progressed planets in awhile, my Sun will soon be progressed to Scorpio. That should be interesting.

Venus,

What a beautiful story. It actually brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing, and all the best, and much success to you with your love of 18 years! Because of this, I have a little more faith now...WOW!

Good question...

It is fear of a broken heart. I admit. I don't have much experience with guys to begin with (have only dated 1 guy in my entire life and I will be 34 this Fall), I have had players approach me before (so I guess subconsciously part of me is always thinking that they're all going to be players), and being the Virgo that I am, I tend to overanalyze everything to the point where I utterly confuse myself and then end up doing absolutely nothing. I figure it's the best way not to get hurt, but human as I am, I do long for love like anyone else.

Virgos tend to be the bachelors and bachelorettes of the zodiac (it's a natural part of our make-up!) and that helps BIG TIME because it's really not as hard for us to stay single for long periods of time like maybe the rest of the zodiac...maybe??? so, it hasn't been all tears and sadness. However, now that I have completed school, am working on my career and purchasing a home, for some reason, I am getting that itch! I never thought I would be a wife or a mom, but lately I am thinking husband...baby...family...more and more...I am even strongly considering adoption if I don't get married...or maybe I will do both...sigh...who knows. Will just have to wait and see what the universe has in store for me.

I honestly don't know about the Scorp for I am frightened, but, I know nothing ventured is nothing gained...yes? I can try to open up a bit more and see what happens, but, let's just say I ain't making any promises.

I thank you so much again for your wonderful feedback. It's truly stories like yours that warm my heart and give me hope for good things to come.

-VM

Hey Veneo!

No worries. You were kind and helpful with your posts and that's all that matters.

Ok, so I wasn't so far off. Cool. Venus in Libra is a pretty darn good placement since Librans tend to be about beauty, good and peaceful living and loving, balance, fairness, social graces and sophistication...I'm sure you will make your significant other proud without a whole lot of drama. lol

So your Sun is progressing to Scorp huh? Well, well, well, that should be interesting indeed!

Hi VirgoMaiden

Being more open to love is always a good idea. The Law of Attraction will draw the right man to you. Check around and find out more about the Scorp. If he was hurt by someone that information should come to the forefront as well. And I love the saying "Nothing ventured, nothing gained"! One of my faves, in fact I used it here just recently on another thread. Cool syncro?

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on my progressed Venus in Libra. You are pretty good at this stuff!

Hello Virgo Maiden

You are very welcome for the story I shared. I am so happy that it helped you to restore your faith in love. And thank you very much for your lovely well wishes too. I wish the same for you in your love life as well.

Remember to keep that heart of yours open and trust that it will never steer you wrong. Whatever or whoever comes into your life always has something meant for you to experience that is always for your highest good, for however long it shall last. You can never go wrong.

Take good care Virgo Maiden and I hope to see you around the forums again soon.

Veneo,

Thanks again. The good Lord knows I am trying to work on my openess...trying! I think once I'm ready the universe will send me the right mate. I'll update you guys if any other juicy details on the Stinger come into play. Very possible he may have been hurt in the past...haven't we all? Aaaahhhhh...

You're welcome about the thoughts on your Venus in Libra...very nice placement.

Well, the weekend is here and I'm just ready to relax and take it easy, and I sure hope you do the same as well. I will definitely stick around this board. You guys are so helpful and sweeeeeet!

TTYS!
-VM

Venus,

Yes it did! I absolutely live for stories like that!

Many thanks for your support and wisdom, and as I told Veneo, I am here to stay, so, I will definitely see you guys around.

Have a wonderful weekend!
-VM

You have a wonderful weekend too Virgo Maiden. I look forward to seeingyou around the forums.

The combination of Virgo and Scorpio is a blend of practicality and emotions — all in one
Thats why confliction is there, because it can be positive as well as negative but most of the time its negative, A Scorpio man is an invincible person. for virgo, is not emotional, Scorpios are very emotional. None of those other signs fit in their life…really.