4 p.m. on a Wednesday afternoon ... what are you thinking about? Are you
worrying about your family and what you might be cooking for dinner tonight?
Are you stressing out over how youre ever going to make the next deadline
for a big project? Or maybe, youre desperately waiting to get out and
get on with that hot date youve got lined up for tonight. Im
sure that we agree that these are all minor events that bring some measure
of stress or relief to our lives, but they certainly can add up, cant
burdened and bludgeoned to death by the little things. Its like an
old man with no teeth chewing on you until he gets to the bone. The little
fears and insecurities become big ones, and we worry and analyze and raise
our blood pressure. We become imprisoned by the transient things in life.
Lets face it; most things in life are transient. Most people,
relationships, money, and security come and go with or without warning. For
some reason, though we are all perfectly aware of this, we clutch to it and
act like these things will never come to us again in our lifetimes.
we obviously had the power to obtain a job, a car, a spouse, a family, so
we obviously have the power to obtain them again. People, for some reason,
have this fatalistic attitude about everything, it seems. Everything is a
one-time shot, and if you miss it, well, itll never come for you again.
Whats often not realized is that the important things do come to you
again, as they come to everyone time and time again whether or not they are
to have the same kind of attitude about things ... I was never going to find
the right guy. Ill never find another great set of friends. If I screw
this up, Ill never get another chance. What I didnt realize was
that sometimes being farsighted is what can make you happy now, even if the
current circumstances dont allow.
a vacation to Canada this summer and, through some of my parents friends,
got a chance to stay on an island on the Georgian Bay. Looking at it, it
really doesnt look like much. The house is ancient, sitting basically
on a rock covered here and there with patches of trees. Although the house
was built back in the 1920s, I soon found that it was a nice place with tons
of history that gave it character and fun stories. Plus, it was situated
so that the western window framed the sunset reflecting on the water perfectly.
It was gorgeous.
the island it was just a huge hunk of rock, there were still many things
to explore. We explored and swam and relaxed in the timelessness of
that island. There were no obligations, no people to come bug me, no constant
looking at my watch or wondering what Im going to do with tomorrow
night. In timelessness like that, you just live and do as you please. It
seemed to imbue me with a sense of peace that has carried over into now.
some reason, even during the first part of the summer, when I was doing little
more than going to a summer class, I was still stressed. I was still wondering
about this big mystery called my future. Then I went to the island
where none of it truly mattered. In truth, I thought that I would just have
thought about things more, but instead, through the timelessness of this
island, I realized that in the end it all didnt matter. My fears would
just fall away, and what would be left? The truth, which was that what would
happen would happen, no matter how much I agonized over it. This little rock
of an island would still be here, just as I will still be here doing what
I will with whatever comes, little worries and all. The worries just hinder
what I choose to do. They eat at me and make me weaker. They dim my light
just a little bit so that I fear whats before me rather than considering
what needs to be done now to have a positive outcome.
do this... We let the little things get in the way of what we know to be
true. We intimidate ourselves into believing that everything is a one-time
shot. We epitomize the saying: Theres nothing to fear but fear
itself. Yet, at the same time we must learn to live with the saying:
You have to let it go to let it grow.
Goodman was always talking about the Eternal Now, and I think that maybe
this is what she meant. If you live in the now, you cant worry about
the later. You dont have phobias or worries about what might happen
or what you might not be able to do. Youll just be here now, doing
what you can with what you have. This same idea has been stated by many different
people in many different ways, but it can never be said enough.
I hope that all of you take a little time to stop for a minute when your
fears get out of control. Stop and look at what you have now, and what you
can do with it at this moment. If you cant do anything, if its
not even your decision and is instead someone elses responsibility,
dont worry. What will come will come; just make sure that youre
prepared for whatever it may be. Life throws misfortunes as surely as is
throws opportunities at you. Its too bad that many people are always
just looking out for the misfortunes.
White Light and Love *
dont have a full White Light and Love section this month. However,
I do ask that you all send extra white light and love to
is living in Guatemala during the riots that are going on there.
of you have any comments, questions, white light or birthday submissions,
etc., please PM me (enchantress299). I hope everyone has a great month!