by Carrie Chesney
The world is a puzzling place. If theres one thing I
know, its that. Humans are not content with simplicity in the face of
complexity. To seem intelligent, one must have a silver tongue and a charming
smile; but in truth, this is where reality hides, a mass of quivering fear and
stubbornness all rolled up in egocentrism.
We, as humans, have the ability and the drive to delve
deeper into the things that interest, intrigue and fascinate us. In the new
movie Intolerable Cruelty, George Clooney spits at the haughty and
clever Catherine Zeta Jones, with a cartoon-like quality, You fascinate me.
However, it often seems that the only things people actually want to delve very
far into are the very things that have no depth: money, beauty, and power.
People can talk for days about how to maintain their trim-looking waist, how to
invest money, and how they are truly the dominant, all-knowing force in their
relationships, as well as their own lives.
Perhaps this is just a side effect from living in a
western industrialized country, where the focus lies on the things that can
create comfort and security in life. It seems like everyone wants a spouse, a
white picket fence and 2.5 children. No one has truly learned to create his or
her own model of how to live.
People wonder why divorce rates have gone up, why
more people are going to counseling, and why the stress rate in America is sky
high. No one has stopped to look around at the double standard that IS the
United States of America. Well allow you to speak your mind, but you must
conform to our standards. Well allow you to own weapons, but you arent
allowed to use them. We want to be a loving, altruistic nation, and yet we go
and stick our hands in other nations business with violent intent.
We dont want eating disorders and teenage
pregnancy, but well still flood every single advertisement, TV show, and teen
magazine with half-naked, thin, beautiful women. We dont want you to be
overweight, and yet, theres a fast-food place on every corner, with
weight-loss gurus lurking in the background waiting for the money to come
flooding in. In reality, maybe if Americans, when they thought of going to a
fast-food place, instead took those meals and sent them to a country where people
were starving, wed still be thin, and they might actually be well fed.
So with all these incongruities, wheres the truth
in it all? Wheres that underlying depth that will keep us happy and intrigued?
For those who play the game of life, it might very well be in who can keep up
the strategery (thanks G.W.) involved in clutching onto those aforementioned
securities that the whole of humanity, or at least the majority of Americans,
Many, however, cant seem to find solace or happiness
in that, and as they grow older, they begin to wonder where their life has
gone. Just as we are told fairy tales as children, eventually, we learn the
truth that love is not often won by being a princess or a prince. This fairy
tale of a successful life is often exposed for exactly what it truly is: work,
hardship and loneliness. The cynicism that pervades our society is no accident.
The rate of depression and suicide is also no accident. People achieve their
goals only to find a sense of emptiness that comes with it.
So Im sure youre thinking, If our society is so
superficial and people are so shallow, where are we supposed to find this depth
and happiness? Well, that is for you to decide. Your own sense of curiosity
and fascination should guide you to where you want to go. Take one day to just
be free of the societal norms that would normally dictate your life and do
something fun, worthwhile, and meaningful. Do something that you know will
create a lasting impression, not only for yourself, but for others as well.
Find the true meaning of love and life, even if it lasts for just a split
Most importantly, look into something you might
never have looked into before, whether it be a person, a subject, a place, or
something else. Often, its not whats on the surface that makes the
difference; its whats inside. People are far too hesitant to find out the
reality that lies under the surface of something big and scary, or cute and
fluffy, or intelligent and cold. No matter what the characteristic, the outward
projection is often taken and written off as the sole reason for not doing
something or not getting to know someone. Do something youd never do. After
that, form your opinions, form your perceptions, and form your life.
Too many people go through life without learning a
thing from what goes on around them or even from the events that happen in
their own lives. Some people walk through life like robots, sucking energy from
others, analyzing and evaluating and collecting, but never experiencing or
feeling. They do a great job of looking at the situation, but never comprehend
the effect. Life, no matter how much we want it to be, is not static and
unchanging. Once we obtain the security and the coveted things that our society
seems to worship, we forget that these things can easily be lost, the value can
easily be forgotten, and the novelty wears off. Our happiness, our lifeblood,
must be found in other ways, in other places.
So, figure out where your truth is. Find out what
fascinates, intrigues, and entices you. Delve deeper with each passing moment.
Dont let yourself get stuck in a plan that is not feeding as much energy into
you as you are into it. See through the surface that separates you from the
truth. Dont let your mind become complacent. Always explore with a lighter,
childlike quality and you will learn that happiness exists in more nooks and
crannies of life than you might ever have imagined.
This month, the list of people
we hope to assist through the combined spirit-power of our community members has grown.
* White light and love for... *
- Rainbows mother, who is frail and ill with cancer.
- Libra_Suns aunt, who is hospitalized with cancer.
- Douglas grandmother (WriteOns grandmother-in-law), who has a cancer diagnosis and believes her time of passing is near.
- Moonflowers husband (BlueDoves dad), who faces serious medical tests.
- Woodchiros daughter (Veneos stepdaughter), Krista, who is dealing with the aftermath of an incident of victimization by an adult.
- Searchings friend and pastor, Mother Kathleen, who recently went through surgery and is having a painful recovery.
- WriteOns friend and pastor, Father John, who is elderly and undergoing open-heart surgery.
- Dong-Yue Zhang, a 9-year-old who goes by the name Cecilia, who went missing from her home in a north Toronto neighbourhood.
- Terri Schindler Schiavo, whose life hangs in the balance as her husband fights for her right to die.
- Moonflowers e-mail friend, Ann, and her three grandchildren. The children have recently been taken away from their drug-using mother and put in foster care. Their father hopes to win custody of the children.
Thats it for this month. If any of you have any comments, questions, or white light requests, either PM me (enchantress299) or e-mail me at